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Posts by Charisse Van Horn

Four Signs You’re Compatible

by Charisse Van Horn

Compatibility is an important aspect of any relationship. When two people are compatible, there is a good indication that they have enough things in common that their relationship has a strong chance of enduring for the long haul. Every couple has differences, arguments, and conflicts and when these become the prominent factor of the relationship, the future can suddenly take a fast detour south. Making sure that you have certain areas of your personality or thinking in common can help prevent those differences from overriding your relationship. Here are four areas, or four signs that you and your partner have enough personality or character traits in common to overcome any hardships that you might face in the future.

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How to Find Out is She's Into You

by Charisse Van Horn

It can be tough trying to figure out if a girl is into you or not. By watching a girl’s behavior, her mannerisms, and the way that she acts when your near is a good way to determine if she’s into your or not. This can be especially important if you’re thinking about taking a relationship with a friend to the next level. The best way to find out if a girl likes you or not is to ask. However, this is not as simple as it seems. The fear of rejection is often great and can inhibit a man from asking the object of his affection point blank if she reciprocates the feeling. Here are some suggestions that you can use to find out if she likes you or not.

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Stop Using Sex as a Weapon

by Charisse Van Horn

Sex is one of the greatest gifts given to humankind, however it is often used in ways that can hurt and destroy a relationship, rather than create intimacy. When sex is used as a weapon, both parties of the relationship suffer. Both men and women can equally abuse sex and use it as a weapon against their partner. Women might be more likely to withhold sex when angry, frustrated, or disappointed while men are more likely to use sex as a way to resolve conflicts and issues. Pressuring a woman to have sex when she isn’t consensual is just as damaging as a woman withholding sex to manipulate her partner. Understanding how recognize the signs of using sex as a form of control can help both partners make certain that they treat their sexual intimacy with respect and the reverence that it deserves.

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Men are After One Thing Only, Right?

by Charisse Van Horn

When starting a new relationship, it’s important to determine whether the connection is based upon qualities such as respect and integrity or if it is purely based upon sexual attraction. Sexual attraction is an important factor in all relationships, but it should never be the primary basis for a couple’s relationship. When women wonder if their man is only after sex, they can become very discouraged with the relationship. When women are focusing on love, marriage, and living happily ever after they can become suddenly devastated with the realization that their man isn’t returning the same level of emotional commitment. Here are some signs that can help you determine whether or not your man is interested in you on a deep level, or if he is only after sex.

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